On death, being unaware of:
This is a conundrum of mine. I’m always convinced that if just one thing in my life were different, then I would be happy. Ok, so sometimes there are a lot of things, but there’s usually one BIG thing. Something you’re stuck on.
And I know this system doesn’t work, because I have repeatedly achieved (or been handed on a silver platter) the thing I was desiring, and for some reason, it hasn’t made me happy.
Now I know , that if only I can let go of this insane craving for things to be “different,” then I will finally be happy.
As you may have noticed, I like to help people. So consult the handy guide below to find YOUR compulsive self-lie!
[there will be a $20 one-time charge if your compulsion is on the list. Whether this actually helps you or just ends up making things worse is NOT the fault of the company. No refunds.]
“If only I…
- Made more money
- Could make my artistic passions my career
- Had a romantic partner
- Had a (competent) business partner
- Was just a little bit more attractive
- Was, like, a LOT more attractive
- Was popular
- Was a movie star, yet humble about it
- Lived somewhere else
- Was more outgoing
- Had a different personality that made people not hate me
- Could travel the world
- Jumped off this building
…then I would be happy!”
And before you ask, no. I’m not saying that none of these things should be pursued or might contribute to your overall satisfaction with life. And yes, you should quit your dumb job that you hate.
Trust me, no one’s more bummed than I am that happiness cannot be reduced to one factor. NO ONE.
Quality Thought of the Day:
When asking for a raise, try to avoid certain word combinations, like:
“death of the soul”
How do I know this?
Step 1 – worry about the meaning of life
Step 2 – I forget
Step 3 – realize that time spent worrying about the meaning of life distracts from life itself
Step 4 – worry about that for a while
Step 5 – decide once and for all to focus on what really matters
Step 6 – worry about how soon you’ll slip back into your old patterns of worry
Step 7 – slip back into your old patterns of worry
Step 8 – on your deathbed, old and grizzled, realize you totally wasted your life searching for meaning.
I knew it.
Ever more people today have the means to live,
but no meaning to live for.
— Viktor Frankl
Nothing a cup of tea can’t fix.